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private victory
II] Communicating with yourself ''Private victory''
You can't have the fruits without the roots. Private victory precedes public victory. This means that you should understand yourself and communicate with it first effectively in order to communicate with others successfully.
And the first step in doing that is to become aware of yourself.
Proactive Vs. Reactive people
The most important ingredient we put into any communication or relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.
So, the place to begin building any communication or relationship is inside ourselves, inside our circle of influence, our own character.
We need to understand that we are responsible for whom we would be and by responsible we mean response- able, our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.
We have the power to choose a positive response to circumstances and projections. By working on ourselves instead of worrying about conditions, we are able to influence conditions.
Any time we think the problem is ''out there'', that thought is the problem. We empower what's out there to control us most people ''reactive people'' think that what's out there has to change before they can change.
The right and proactive approach is to change from inside-out: to be different and by being different- I can be more resourceful, I can be more diligent, I can be more creative, etc.
An excellent way to become self-aware is through understanding Steven covey's circle of influence and concern:
A Circle of Concern
encompasses the
wide range of concerns we have, such as
our health, our children, problems at work,
the amount of government borrowing, or
the threat of war.
A Circle of Influence
Encompasses
those concerns that we can do
something about. They are concerns that
we have some control over.
Proactive people focus on issues within
their circle of influence. They work onthings they can do something about. The
nature of their energy in doing this is
positive, enlarging and magnifying. They
increase their Circle of Influence
Reactive people tend to neglect
those issues that are under their
control and influence. Their focus is
elsewhere and their Circle of
Influence shrinks.
So in order to attain private victory; you must be proactive, being proactive is being responsible- response-able to control our lives and to powerfully influence our circumstances by working on be, on what we are.
Communication skills process
Communication Skills Process
Problems with communication can pop-up at every stage of the communication process (which consists of the sender, encoding, the channel, decoding, the receiver, feedback and the context – see the diagram below). At each stage, there is the potential for misunderstanding and confusion.
To be an effective communicator and to get your point
First impression
The importance of first impressions:
Although it takes only 30 to 45 seconds to formulate a first impression, it often requires four or five additional encounters to change someone's first impression. Many times, once you've made a first impression, you will not have a second opportunity to change that impression. Therefore, it's important to make your best impression on the first try.
Elements influencing first impressions:
Often impressions are based on abstract qualities such as:
· Appearance
Your appearance is comprised of several factors: the clothes you wear, your personal hygiene, your posture, and even your handshake all leave impressions on people you meet. When meeting people for the first time, it is best to do some research and find out about their environment. If you are entering a different country or culture, determine whether your attire
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